Buddha taught that “What you think, you become”
Sounds simple. Well, there is work involved. Success in any area always involves some work!
This philosophy is called the “Law of Attraction.”
In short, whatever you are thinking about or holding in your mind is what you become or what you attract to you. It is so easy to get stuck in a pattern of just being complacent going through the motions without ever having to think about things.
We are all overwhelmed with the task of just living, so it becomes easy to get stuck in a rut. Then time goes by, and we wonder to ourselves, is this it? Why aren’t things changing? Why does it seem like good things happen to other people and here I am making the same mistakes, lacking inspiration, and getting nowhere fast?
Psychologist Carol Dweck says “Failure and lack of forwarding movement in life can be a painful experience but it does NOT define you. It is a problem to be faced, dealt with, and learned from.”
The good news is the law of attraction does work. But where do you start?
Before using the basic laws of attraction, you need to practice changing your mindset. Begin by changing the beliefs that hold you back. Basic beliefs are what we tell ourselves and simply accept. Things like “I will always be fat” or “I have never been outgoing” are stories we tell ourselves that you just need to change. Don’t poison your mind with that negativity.
Another important part is changing your focus. Don’t focus on the past. Stop wallowing in self-pity. It’s a waste of time. You can’t change it. Focus on your next big success.
Get rid of the dead weight. Toxic relationships, dead-end jobs, people that bring you down. We have all had people in our life that are just downright bad for us. They contribute nothing. If you can, get them out of your life. Elevate your standards. You are worth it. Surround yourself with people or things that make you feel good about yourself.
Ok, on to the basic laws of attraction.
First of all, you must be resolute in your desire for your goal(s). You can’t waver or allow anything to get you off the path.
Next, stop doubting and use your imagination! Have you ever drifted off for a few minutes and daydreamed about something great happening to you? Meeting Mr. (or Ms.) Right, fitting into those jeans that don’t fit anymore or owning that car you always wanted? Weren’t those wonderful thoughts that put a smile on your face.? Well, keep dreaming about your goals. Conceptualize and imagine them several times a day.
Another key principle of the law of attraction is making sure your mind AND body are in sync. No, you don’t have to be in top athletic shape or even close to it. The point is to BEGIN at something that helps your physical body. Start with baby steps like dedicating to eating healthier three times weekly instead of going through the fast-food drive-thru. (You don’t need that Big Mac). But if you are really craving that Big Mac, order it without the bun! You get the point.
Try walking just five more minutes a day, take the stairs and not the elevator, or spend a few minutes doing deep knee bends. Again, baby steps.
Finally, one of the most important parts of the laws of attraction is who you associate with your life. If you want to have a great life, surround yourself with people that make you feel better and uplift you.
People that are successful can share that success with you. They can be almost contagious! And not just career or monetary successes. People that are confident, peaceful, pleasant, happy, and fulfilled in their lives can be our guides. Observe the things they are doing in their lives. You will be surprised at what you can learn.
I am reminded of a recent meme I saw the other day that basically sums up this blog: A son that had several failed relationships asked his father how he can attract a wonderful woman into his life.
The father answered: To attract a better woman, you need to be a better man.
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